What To Do With Unexpected Stress
This past weekend has been a nightmare for stress, which was at an all-time high there for awhile. My son broke up with his girlfriend, then he came down with Influenza A, meaning he is really sick right now. My husband and I didn’t seem to be able to click so there was a lot of issues there. I was starting to get sick.
I decided to move my blog to a different host (I was merging with my other site, ELEMENTAL by KILEE GOECKE). The person that was helping me from the original host site had a major miscommunication and instead of moving and mapping, we moved and he DELETED. I have been working literally for HOURS trying to get both of my sites running and out of construction. I am in an insomnia phase so I am hardly sleeping. My mother’s sister, my Aunt Irma, died. My body and mind is a complete mess!
When Things Get Tough
When you live with chronic pain and emotional and mental health issues, unexpected stress can throw you way off. It’s tough handling the day-to-day stress. It’s tough handling just one unexpected kicker. Throw in a whole handful and it’s like a tidal wave of emotions and pain that at the moment seems like it is completely uncontrollable!
The worst part…it’s not like you can stop. Things need done. Sites need fixed. Sick people need care. Everyone needs fed. You have responsibilities that you can’t ignore. These are the times I struggle the most. I don’t have much support for immediate overwhelming situations. I spend almost all of my time alone, so when things come up that are so tough to deal with, I feel like I am lost in this dark hole that can either keep getting deeper and darker, or hopefully I will find the strength to pull myself out without help.
You Can Do It!
That’s tough, and I admit I can’t always do it. That’s when I do call out to my family and friends to help me. It doesn’t have to to be much. A comment from my son that I can do it. A coffee break with my mom just chatting. Texting with my girlfriend about our kids. It takes such little things that I don’t think they realize help me so much.
I can’t stress enough how a support system is just imperative to have. If you don’t know anyone, join blogs or groups online. Join a local book club. Find a stress reliever. For me that’s coloring. I have no idea why as that is not something I have ever done much of. If I am having a hard time, I grab my books and colored pencils and after an hour or so I am feeling a lot more calm and zen. Anything that takes your mind off of the crazy for a bit is perfect.
I am still working on the sites, my son and I are still sick, my husband and I are still not clicking, Aunt Irma – yep, still dead, and I am still barely sleeping, but because I know what I needed to do to de-stress, I am already on my way to feeling better. What was it this time? It was blogging all of you about my weekend. 🙂
All the best,