When It Hurts
In the midst of daily life, oftentimes we find ourselves challenged by trials and tribulations that bring great pain or frustration rather than rejoicing in the peace of happiness. As we are all individual personalities, that trial could be anything. For me, it has been my physical pain, financial and relationship issues.
Never having enough money at the end of the month, always in pain and unable to find common ground with your significant other: for me it is my husband. It seems like no matter how hard you try, you just can’t find a way past the walls that keep getting built up in front of you.
It is easy to start feeling self-pity and having your thoughts center around yourself. That’s a natural thing we do, most often we do not even realize it. It takes a concentrated effort to realize we are in the midst of self-pity and even more effort to get out of that frame of mine.
Staying upset and feeling sorry for yourself only hurts you more than the offending person or issue. It takes mind over matter to dig yourself out of that dark place of trial and find the light of peace.
Look For The Light!
I have come to realize that when I am feeling bad, it is usually up to me to get myself out of it. In doing so, this is what I have learned: I alone can turn my trials and tribulations into joy and happiness. No one can change my frame of mind but me. I am the one to figure out what I need to do to get out of the negatives and back into feeling the positives.
First of all, I look for the light. What, in all of this, is good? Can I learn something from this trial? Can I help others in some way when they feel like I do? Where is your light? Once you find it, you lock onto it for all your worth and do NOT let it go!
Follow The Light
Initially that light may only be a tiny little pinprick. Once you have found it, find a focus that makes you happy. It can be anything. A precious memory, your children, your faith, anything that genuinely brings you joy is the only thought you should have in your mind for that moment.
Keep focused on that light and block all other emotions from your mind and feel only the good that thought brings to you. Breathe deeply and slowly. Almost meditative in nature. Relax and follow the light. Use a mantra repeated over and over to help you focus. Try aromatherapy. Some people pray. Do what works best for you as long as it is healthy.
Happiness and Joy
Hopefully these thoughts help you find your happiness and joy during the times that are rough. I know how hard it is, and how hard you have to fight sometimes. I also know that there will be times the fight is just too much and you can’t seem to get out of the darkness and pain.
Do not feel like it is a failure. We are tough, but sometimes circumstances are tougher and we just do not win. Accept it, and try again the next time. Eventually it will become easier for you and you will find that getting out of that emotional wreck is not as hard as it used to be.
My Thoughts For You
In closing, I want you to know that I truly hope this blog reaches you in a way that helps you find some peace on those days of trials when there seems to be none. It truly is mind over matter. I have always told my boys that the MIND controls the body, the body does not control the MIND. Remember that. YOU control YOU. Not the circumstances, not the other person; YOU. So fight, push back, and do not ever give up.
I know you will get there!
All the best,